Most think that the pasture is always greener on the other side, what you cannot get will always be the best.
As such, we tend to neglect and not cherish what we have right now.
Only when those we failed to treasure have left us, will we start to regret.
But it is all too late.

Labels: general

Came across this 'Relationships for Dummies' book, i picked it up as it looks interesting.

There are alot of theories mentioned in it. Some are just basic knowledge, some as what we already know, just that this book lists them out word by word, so your thoughts get more organized as you read through. although, some i find them quite contradicting.

i've not finish the whole of it, as it is very thick and i seldom have the time to read.
while i was reading, i found this theory to be of some truth to it.

Elements of Compatibility by Importance

This was grouped into 3 different categories:
- Must haves
- Good to have
- Don't need to have

Must haves
The elements in this category is extremely important, direct impact to the relationship, and is very difficult to change.
They are:
- Honesty
- Trust
- Loyalty
- Monogamy
- Maturity
- Psychological health
- Shared relationship goal
- Timing

Good to have
These are moderately important and difficult to change.
The elements:
- Good communication
- Fun & chemistry
- Compatible intelligence
- Physical attraction
- Sexual compatibility
- Similar interests
- Similar investment/power in the relationship
- Similar life goals/plans
- Similar financial views & practices
- Shared history
- Support of family/friends
- Similar culture, race, & religion
- Perseverance

Don't need to have
- Same taste in dressing
- Same neighbourhood
- Same education
- Same politics
- Same marital/family status

I only feel some truth to this, partially.
i beg to differ for some of these categorization.
For e.g., i find 'good communication' and 'similar financial views & practices' to be of great importance, and they should be included in the 'must haves', instead of only 'good to have'.


Monetary issues has always been the no.1 relationship killer, the ultimate root of quarrels.
Mine is of no exception.
we've a 180degree difference in our monetary view, the way we make decisions whether to spend or not. frankly speaking, i'm very much unhappy with his way of spending. i'm not saying that i'm very good at saving, but at least i resist and tried to be disciplined in my spendings and avoid buying unnecessary things. if i can live without it, den that would not be a necessity, but instead, its a 'want' or can be considered a 'luxury'. however, i do, once in a while, allow myself to indulge in the temptation, buy nice and cute snacks and candies etc, or spend on good meals on special occasions. but still, before any purchase, i would think very hard before buying it, just to avoid overspending on stuffs that i can live without or worse, regretting the purchase or end up not using it at all.
true, that he is always able to get a reason to support his purchase, however, i find that i couldn't agree with him. you see anything on the shelf, and you immediately think of a way that it is going to help you, and you made no hesitation to buy it. at this rate that you're going, no amount of hard work is going to help you achieve the ultimate goal. because, there are hundreds and thousands of products out there that you thought you require (need). you wouldn't earn enough to get them all, much less to say.. saving up for what you had in mind. with this, i have a strong feeling that this wouldn't even take place in the next ten years, to think i'm naively thinking that this can be brought forward to another year or two, since you sounded so sincere. but words will only be words.. it will not change anything if you don't work for it.
i can see you've tried, but just hoping that we can be more synchronize. i don't wish for our relationship to be jeopardized just because of the disagreement in this issue. however, if we do not come to a conclusion quick enough, i'm afraid both parties will suffer, as no doubt, this issue is an on-going matter.


now, here i am, listening to the songs that were played throughout in my previous job.
reminiscing the days when i was still working in ac........

Labels: ~心事~, general

cny 2008 feels just like any other normal days; only that i've got quite a long break from work.

normally, each year before cny, i'll get excited and buy plenty of chocolates and candies, not forgetting to mention love letters, pineapple tarts, cookies etc. soon, every inch of my long coffee table at the living room will be filled with all the goodies.

however, this year is an exception.
don't really have the new yr mood. not sure why too.

anyway..
it has come to my favourite time of the day.
i'm off to bed; tml is going to be boring and dull.


have a joyous & prosperous 2008!

Labels: general

got myself a haircut at Kimage last thursday.
thought this time round i don't want to restrict the hairstylist too much, i did not give any special instructions, except that i showed her the expected length i would like to see at finish.
ended up, she cut it real short and gave me a hairstyle that i have nv worn before.
my first reaction when i saw my reflection in the mirror was, "omg, what the hell has she done to my hair???" thankfully, i did not faint on the spot. haha.

i can tell that my previous hairstyle, though normal, suited me most..
but not much of a regret as what's done cannot be undone.
unless i go for a hair extension..... which would be ridiculous!! taking in mind that the reason why i wanted to cut my hair is to chop off excessive weight and burden on me. haha.

after much resistance, i've finally managed to curb my addiction for ice milo. but.... not long after... i've once again, succummed to the temptation of cold chocolatey liquid running into my mouth and throat.. urghhh..
needing some discipline here.


sometimes, ignorance is bliss.

Labels: general

was practically suffering for the whole of last week due to some unknown reasons that were hurting my tummy badly.
i woke up everyday, thinking of getting MC on that day itself, but in the end still went to work. all because i thought the stocks are coming in. day after day, the goods kept delaying..
finally on thursday, the pain was too much, i couldn't take it anymore. instead of going to JP post office to register post, i alighted at JE and went straight into the clinic.
Luckily, i did not have to wait long before its my turn.
Well.. i don't really understand what the doctor is saying. but, all i managed to catch is that i had some contaminated food which made virus in my stomach and in turn caused wind - bloated feeling in the tummy. and also due to my irregular eating habits. waited till i'm very hungry, den overstuff myself. but, i realised that i get hungry very easily recently.. can't possibly expect me to have my lunch at 10am right..
i think i've recovered alrdy. if i had known, i would have visited the doctor on monday, instead of dragging till thursday. even so, i'll still need to keep track on my diet and not to eat excessively full/not eat at all.

now got another problem liao. this must be my unlucky month =(
but this time, i don't need a doctor, i can dignose myself.
i cannot smell anything =X which is both good and bad.
my ear is inflamed. know that irritating feeling of itch, yet can't scratch it because its piercingly painful if you stick your finger in it. urghh.. help!
symptons: flu/blocked nose/sorethroat
analysis: i've caught a cold and also abit heaty.


i'm a certified doctor!!
believe it or not. cn look for me, will charge you cheaper than prevailing rates.

**pls note: i'm not liable for any error or outcome caused by my more than often inaccurate dignoses =X

and btw.. i owe someone an apology.
for jumping into some silly conclusion and in turn causing some misunderstanding.
i put the blame on the virus thats creating havoc in my tummy the other time.
sorry =X

Labels: general, rumbling^

its been a week since i last updated my blog.
not that i'm too busy/ neglecting my online diary. just that everytime i wanted to post an entry, i would be reminded of the stupid incident and blunder that i've made. and the issue is still pending. hence.. don't really feel like blogging.
also, another reason might be i'm just being my stubborn self.

weekdays and weekends.. don't seem to have much of a difference.
previously, even though i hate weekdays.. i still have weekends to look forward to..
now that they seem the same.. hmm.
seriously feel that i'm wasting my life away.
i foresee that this week will remain the same.. either that or worse.


don't comment that more often than not, my entries sounded depressing.
well, it reflects what's in my mind at that exact moment.
i hate it that i sounded so pessimistic at times, but i really can't help myself. not sure how am i supposed to fake it and post something that's not what i really think. afterall, this is my blog eh. and by doing that, it will totally defeat the purpose of creating this web.
who wouldn't love an optimistic, vibrant and cheerful life, which is full of laughter and joy, without any worries, frets or discontentment?
these are easy for us to say, until you try to put it into action.
sad to say that things often don't happen the way you wish for it to be.

Labels: general

free from work today.
actually have plans to bring my mum out for a treat..
but.. cancelled it in the end.

met up with darren and weida.
its been long since we meet up and chat.
haha, weida looks funny with his thick specs on and shaved head. lol, he has become a big geek.
Went to lotsa places.. JP, JE, MS and finally Suntec to catch a movie.
couldn't decide on the places to go, and i suggested going to MS to have lunch at Han's.
where.. kwok ping joined us halfway.
very long didn't see him alrdy. hmm.. four years?
hafnt changed much, except for the fact that he has become lots fitter.

den.. bcos weida has to book in early at Tekong, he couldn't join us for the movie.
currently all the movies shown are so seriously boring..
watched Mr Woodcock. no doubt its a stupid movie.

took bus back to JW.
it was a long long journey.
ate at the hawker centre near our house.
although i've been living there for nearly 20years, not once have i been there to eat.
the place is recommended by darren.
surprisingly its quite nice.



there...
goes my Sunday...

Labels: general

what a busy day.
frm the moment i stepped into the office, i've been on the phone.
i'm required to book the hotels for our overseas client, started with hotels like Royal@ Queen's, Garden Hotel etc.
i panicked when i realised all the intended hotels are fully booked. oh shit. stressed.
so stressed that i only took less than 10mins of lunch.
i think most of you share this experience of not being able to eat in peace when there is sth heavy weighing on the mind.

searched online frantically for all the hotels available.
and made calls frm morning till after lunch to enquire for room availability.
my efforts have not gone dw in the drain as finally managed to secure rooms for them.
but that has caused my alrdy hurting throat to be even drier and its hurting like mad and in turn, caused my ear to itch inside.
the feeling is extremely irritating.
this, however, cldn't stop me frm eating the delicious Swiss chocolates that our guest from Berlin had bought for our company.
wow.. its super delicious, thick & milky. hmmm yum~

i've learnt to take things as it comes. i feel its very impt and am constantly reminding myself not to worry unnecessarily, bcos what you are worrying might not happen. and whatever happens, you can take it one step at a time. the problem will eventually be solved somehow.
and that's when you know you've given your best, so there is no pt keeping the issue on your mind, giving yourselves needless stress.
there will always be a path made available for you.




the higher your hopes, the greater the disappointment.

Labels: at work, general, shamain's theory*

me & the rest of my colleagues went to visit Bee Leng at Gleneagles during our lunch time.
Congratulations to her! a newborn baby boy =D
he's so adorable & cute.. and he looks exactly like her!
but can see that's he going to be a very active & playful boy, cos he kept swinging his fist, kicking his legs & pull out his baby glove even though he is only 1 day old. lol.
he makes those baby voices too, as if he's trying to ask us to hush & not disturb his sleep. hee.
hahas.. almost all the girls who were there, displayed motherly instinct the minute their eyes were set on the baby. lol~
haha.. if really want, just go & have one lo. then you can hug your baby for 24/7. lol!
i don't dare to hug the baby, cos he is so small and feels like marshmallow. wahaha.. his skin is so thin & soft that even the tag tied on his legs can make red blotchy marks on him. for a clumsy person like me, who nv handle any babies before, i might hurt him badly =(

so fortunate to have so many ppl fussing over him when he's born. lucky guy.. hahas. i think his sister is gg to be jealous! nevertheless, i'm sure this bundle of joy will bring loads of happiness to his family. esp, the mum who painstakingly endured for 10months, just to show him this colourful world.

Labels: general

=( =( =( =( =( =( =( =( =(

experiencing a sulky mood today.
the weather did not help by welcoming me with a heavy rain the minute i stepped out of the hse.
i wonders if i'm having moodswing.. i have always dread monday bcos of working. however, it has come to such an extreme. just a casual glance at my watch last night, i plunged into moodiness. i knew monday isn't far. as much as i tried to contain myself, i broke into uncontrollable sobs. being so stupid, exaggerating, and ridiculous u might think, but it happened. the only possible blame would be the stupid moodswing, plus sth else which i didn't say out ='(

here i am, sitting in the office. its the start of the week again..
and monday really sucks like hell.. so does tuesday. wednesday isn't any better, its like hanging in the middle of nowhere. thursday sucks too, bcos there is still another day to go. friday.. ok. friday, please come and pass fast.

Labels: general, moody

Labels: general

its month's end, & it means stress!
its been long since i needa do up reports. gotta close up the sales reports for this month.
after staring hard on the pathetic computer screen & squinting my eyes at those thousands of tiny figures for a few days.. i've finally managed to complete it! whew~
wasn't sure what caused it, but it might have been the over using of concentration of my eyes & brain, i experienced a slight wave of dizziness while at work. still feelin a little of it right now though. guessed i needa stop looking at the screen for some time. gotta rest my eyes.
>_<

people often don't know what they've got, until its gone forever.
"mind not about the past, think not about the future, learn to treasure the present."

as a typical capricorn, i plan for what might come my way.
so this sentence isn't entirely true for me. the last part.. however, is important.

Labels: general, shamain's theory*

yawning away after a heavy lunch >O<
feel like taking a bus back home.. so quiet & cosy.. can Zzz inside/ look outside the window & take in the nice scenery.. whoo.. sounds perfect.
well, almost perfect.. cos my teddy isn't beside me.

had a hair cut yest. not much of a big difference. i still prefer my old hair, cos there really is something funny abt my hair & fringe now, although i couldn't make out what is it >_<
but i had to say that my head feels much lighter now that i've chopped off the lengths.
horrors! when i saw so much of my beloved hair falling all over the floor & on my lap. woa.. so heartpain.
now then i realised that its such a nice feeling when someone is washing my hair for me. so shiok ^_^ was ready to fall asleep, if only the person didn't kept tilting my head up to wash the hair near the neckline. some spoilter >_<

sipping on ice milo now.. hmm~
dozing off.. Zzz.....

Labels: general

Labels: general, pissed off

its so early in the morning.. where some are still in their dreamland. but i'm alrdy at my workplace. Zzz. haha.

-15 July 2007-

Sentosa trip.

couldnt remember what was i waking up for. was it work at lavender? or work at Bugis? or going out with friends? the venue & time? wah. nv felt so blur b4. proves my lack of sleep is making my memory fail. haha.

gathered at lakeside mrt. i reached on time ok! some pig is still cutting his hair when i left home. omg. still claimed that its bcos of some 'past experiences' that made him feel that there is enough time to cut his hair [bcos i'll be late]. wah lao. i'm on time lor. still say, "aye. i kw that ur not Shamain, stop impersonating her. pls ask ur sister to come out." Grr!
X_X almost killed him.

wanted to take monorail frm Vivo after lunch, but ended up wasting more than expected time there. haha. there is this nice, cosy pet shop at Vivo, called the Pet Safari (if im not wrong). its just opposite Tenchi, the anime/games store. you can see alot of hamsters/rabbits/dogs etc in the shop, including delicious-looking pet food. hee.

had a hard time locating the place to take the monorail. found it after walking one BIG round. we were like.. wah lao.. hahaha.
the monorail is better than the shuttle bus, as in, it takes u str. to the various locations (beach, merlion etc)

finally reached underwater world after walking passed siloso beach, & under the scorching sun. (sweats....) >_<"
quite enjoyable inside cos its cooling. haha. saw a wide range of sea creatures. some fascinating creatures like the 'sea angel', that i've nv seen b4 =) spent at least 2 hrs inside taking all sorts of photos.

when we came out, i've got a shock. haha. someone suddenly put a fat snake on guanlun's shoulder. n he's only standing behind me. wah lao. when i realised, i jumped away, almost comically >_<. luckily that person nv put the snake on me, otherwise.. he die. haha. no lar.. actually, i tink i'll sprint back home at TOP speed liao - which is good, save transport fees >_<
went to siloso beach to walked on the sand & feel the heat. felt all sticky & yucky >_<
wanted to take the Sentosa luge & Cinemax. but didn't go in the end. was a lil' disappointed. haha.

had dinner at vivo again. this time at 2Hot cafe. this is the 1st time, & also gg to be the last time. bcos their service sucks. i ordered seafood marinara & repeated at least twice that i wanted spaghetti when asked for the choice of pasta. instead, they served one other type of pasta (fettuccini) that looked somewhat like dried meepok -,-
when i told them they had got the order wrong, the person took it back. den i saw the chef telling him what to tell us. he came back w the same plate & said that "we've run out of spaghetti, is it ok for u to take this?" den i'm like... what the hell. but still, i said ok. haha. deacon asked why i agreed to it, cos he actually wanted to answer him, "if that's so, why wasn't i informed." den.. haiz. even when i said ok to that person, i gave him that super irritated face. & i remained v. pissed off for the rest of the time in the cafe. i dun tink is they dun wan to change for me & not that they dun haf spaghetti. even if they dun haf, they shld tell me beforehand. damn. the more i tink, the more i got pissed off, so just kept quiet & eat throughout dinner. sry guys for showing my attitude, even though i knew you were being nice, tryin to offer me your fish & chips, but i've really got no appetite liao. haha. i'm angry lei. stupid me, why i must agreed to haf that plate of 'mee pok dry' pasta. gags. pissed off with myself too. urghh.
seeing that the time is still early, i've recovered immediately frm my irritated mood. told them that im gg bugis to meet a friend. wah lao. insisted on coming along. tagged me up to the lvl 3 toilet. i spent a long time inside, so they went off first. hahaha =P

P.S. darren, ur missing out all the fun man. everytime so wrong timing de. boo!



damn shag nowadays.. can fall asleep anywhere... anytime... any position... LOL.

Labels: fun, general, pissed off, tired

Winning a guy's heart isn't the final victory.
Don't leave him once you've got him.
Love him all the way till the end of time,
& you'll earned the honor & respect for your true love.
He choose you because he believed that you can fulfil your promise.
Win his heart & love him over.
Remember, the guy isn't a trophy for display.
He's someone to love, not to show off to your friends.
Stay humble yet be proud that he's the one for you.
Respect him for the way he is,
never despise him & never mistreat him, never think of toying him.


[[ L O V E ]]


Find a guy, who calls you beautiful instead of hot.
Who calls you back when you hang up on him.
Who will stay awake just to watch you sleep.
Wait for the guy who kisses your forehead.
Who wants to show you off to the world when you are in your sweats.
Who holds your hand in front of his friends.
Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you
of how much he cares about you
and how lucky he is to have you.
Wait for the one who turns to his friends
and says, "...that's her."


[adapted frm dearest Mei2's webbie =D ]

Labels: general

- coughing non-stop.
its terrible.

*cough cough*

little wonder..
why it don't seems to get better, but got worse instead.
nv take any medicine, yet, carried on eating chocolate chip cookies, pringles, cadbury chocolates, Lays potato chips & all other junk foods... plus sleeping late. humph.
hahaha. so think i can't complain also.

just hope i'll get better by tml.
don't think there is anyone who's not likely to get irritated when hearing someone who keeps clearing her throat continuously while talking.

"ERm. eRm. erM. ERM...."
'tsk tsk.'
O_o... LOL!

drinking my fave jasmine milk tea now.
hahaha.. getting fatter liaoZ >_<
haiz.. can't help it. simply can't resist it.

>____________<

Labels: general

supposed to be my off day yest.
in the end still need to wake up at usual time to open shop for vivian
haiyo.
tired lei

afternoon, met saiful after his meeting. went to J8 to see how the store is doing.
wow! amazed at their neat & tidy shop display..
no wonder sales so good. haiz..

wandered around after that. got caught by serene, lena & kelvin.
he was like, so paiseh. haha. so cute. i was grinning =P
only told me after they were gone that some will start rumors.
but then, i replied that rumors will only be rumors lor. don't haf to care abt it.
haha. only said that cos i'll not be working soon liao. left him to handle le.
wahaha

finally settled for the Men in White movie @ Jubilee AMK.
quite reluctant to watch that. cos i know its so stupid.
but too bad, the other movies looked worse.

slacked in Mc Cafe till movie starts. their double chocolate frappaccino is quite delicious. shld give it a try too.

the movie is funny lar. mixed of hokkien + chinese + cantonese + english..
we were laughing all the time. amazed how saiful can understand cos he was laughing non-stop, even at times when i'm not laughing. haiyo >_<

but still.. the movie have no meaning.
only funny & lame. then some ppl in the cinema laughed so loud. wah lao. nothing funny, also laugh -_____-"

was alrdy dead tired when i reached home.
just flopped on my bed & Zzz.

-------------------------------------------------
its not always good to sleep early.

i've got a horrible nightmare last night.
its terrible.
really really horrid.
its good to know that i'm still alive.
bcos it made me realised there are actually so many ppl that i really love + cared about & whom i hoped cared for me too.
its really a very frightening nightmare.
not just any lame dream.
i hope i won't get anymore of it in the future.

Labels: general, happy, sadness

yes! yes! yes!

tml - off
wed - off
thur - claim annual leave

LOL!!!

long long time since i've got so many free days to myself. wahaha =D

-----------------
haiyo. Jimmy met with an accident last night while riding on his bike.
think he must have been speeding T.T
worried at first when couldn't get through his phone.
luckily, he finally called & heard that its nth really serious.
just a 2 weeks MC >_<
see lar. speed some more lor >_<
anyway..
hope he will get well soon bah.

-----------------
& 1 stupid person who so stubbornly refuses to let Saiful work on sat. what the hell.
i angry liao lor.
must well i take my other annual leave on sat.
this big idiot.
den. i made a call personally to him requiring the schedule.
he said his decision is finally alrdy, no changes can be made to it. what the shit.
& his tone of voice arh..
i felt even more pissed off after the call. wah lao.
damn it.

-URGHHH!!!-



haha.
don't care liao. angry is also only for a couple of minutes.
cos i have alrdy promised myself to not let anything affect me =)
so i've been quite happy these few days, with practically nothing heavy on my mind.

Labels: at work, general, happy, pissed off

1st time today!

its not really cold over there. i still see a guy wearing tank -,-

tiring - yes. but definitely fun =D

went to IMM after that, in search for something to drink.

combed the whole of IMM, & we still found nOtHinG good enough to quench our thirst. LOL.

ended up, i got a bottle of jasmine green tea & he got chestnut drink, back at the JE interchange -__________-"

wahaha. picky indeed.

- stuPid piGs -

Labels: general, happy

Hello all. Welcome to moi blog.

I've just passed the age of what you called, teenagers.
So ya, as much as I hate to admit. I'm officially an adult now.
Time to grow up and be independent.

I'm a clumsy person.
More often than not, I do not know what I want.
Meaning, I contradict myself.
I love myself, but I hate that I have this tendency to think too much
- hence, explained the creation of this blog.



#1 [my Soulmate]
#2 [my Baobei]
#3 [my Baby]
--> ♥Saiful Azfar♥:
This guy got me mesmerized.

[my Toshiba Portégé M800]
[my iPod Touch]
[Marshmallows]
[Chocolates]
[Mints]
[Jasmine Pearl Milk Tea Xp]
[McCafe's Double Chocolate]
[Spaghetti (Tomato base)]
[Famous Amos Chocolate Chip Cookies!]
[Dramas]
[Music]
[Shop shop]
[Fun]
[Stars]
[Pink]
[Purple]
[Rainbow]



#1 World Peace
(blah. That wish is meant for Miss Universe; not me.)
#2 Indulging in
- Attention
- Love
- Genuine Care
- Concern (from my Love)
#3 Plane ride
#4 See snow
#5 Pink Nintendo DS Lite
#6 Pink Laptop
#7 Anything given by *him*
#8 Small Bolster
#9 xX SecRet Xx

October 2006
November 2006
December 2006
January 2007
February 2007
March 2007
April 2007
May 2007
June 2007
July 2007
August 2007
September 2007
October 2007
November 2007
December 2007
January 2008
February 2008
March 2008
April 2008
May 2008
June 2008
July 2008
August 2008
September 2008
October 2008
November 2008
December 2008
January 2009
February 2009
March 2009
April 2009
May 2009



x[Annie]x
x[Clara]x
x[Darren]x
x[Darren Liu]x
x[Jacqueline]x
x[Jeslyna]x
x[Jessie]x
x[Jimmy&Brenda]x
x[Karin]x
x[Keon]x
x[Lynn]x
x[Michelle]x
x[Mine]x
x[YanLing]x




[ k a w a i i ]

;` hiding behind a cheery smile;
*Somewhere oVer the RainBow* i'll meet you there~


layout by: [ k a w a i i ]
1024x768 resolution recommended
To navigate, click on the Y
Do not spam
Do not rip anything off
No vulgarities

_-*Shamain*-_
21 yrs old
Capricorn

She said she's strong but,
now she's finding it hard to cope.

more about me

Create a MySpace Playlist at MixPod.com